If you are considering a divorce or going through the process, you know that ending a marriage is not a pleasant experience. A divorce attorney knows there is a lot of stress in making the tough choice to end a legal and emotional relationship and there is often great concern over the terms of a divorce settlement.
The good news, however, is that a new study shows that a hardship like divorce can actually change your outlook in the future and encourage you to savor more things in the present. As you work through the end of your marriage, the Huffington Post reports the future may be brighter than you think.
Divorce Can Lead to a Greater Ability to Enjoy Positive Experiences
The study was published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science and involved a survey of 14,986 adults. The surveyed adults were asked about whether they had experienced any adverse events, such as a divorce, and about whether the adverse event was in the past or was ongoing in the present.
The thousands of survey respondents were then presented with six real-life positive scenarios including going on a hike or doing enjoyable activities like gazing at a beautiful waterfall. The purpose was to judge the ability of these divorced adults to enjoy the positive experiences.
The outcome of the study revealed that those who were in the middle of their divorce had a diminished proclivity for saving positive events. The hardship of the divorce process reduced their ability to find joy in everyday pleasant activities.
However, people who had gone through a divorce or another adverse situation like the death of a loved one turned out to express a higher capacity for savoring the simple pleasures than those who had not experienced such a hardship. Based on this data, researchers believe that people who had previously experienced the pain of a bad relationship or a divorce were more likely to appreciate and take joy in everyday life.
This is good news for people who may be concerned about lingering feelings of sadness after a divorce or who may be worried that they will be lonely and no longer able to enjoy life. Of course, there are some people who have a hard time getting over divorce and the many people who do struggle should take advantage of support that is available including individual or group therapy. Regardless of what specific steps you need to move on after your marriage ends, there is typically a bright future ahead.
Of course, it is important to make sure that your finances and important relationships are protected during the divorce so you can emerge from the stressful process in a positive situation where you are equipped to enjoy life. An experienced attorney can help you to facilitate the negotiation of a divorce settlement agreement that makes sense for your family and allows for a positive outcome. An attorney can also help you in a litigated divorce so you have the best chance of a favorable outcome no matter your present circumstances.
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